Come As You Are

The Come As You Are Series: A Raw, Radical Exploration of Grief, Love, and What Comes After

Grief isn’t a problem to solve. It’s a life to live.

In the Come As You Are series, G. Scott Graham shares one of the most unfiltered, intimate, and life-affirming explorations of grief ever written. This isn’t about “getting over it.” It’s about what happens when you don’t — and how that can still be a beautiful, honest way forward.

Each book captures a different stage of the author’s life after the death of his husband, Brian. From the chaos of early grief to the quiet ache of being forgotten, and finally, to the terrifying return of love and vulnerability — this series offers presence, not platitudes. These aren’t manuals. They’re companions for anyone learning to carry loss without shutting down.

Book One: Meditation & Grief

The Raw Beginning

This book begins in the wreckage — with messy, unedited journal entries and hard truths about a culture that tries to fix grief instead of feel it. It weaves Graham’s early mourning with his long-standing meditation practice (Vipassanā, Ānāpāna, and Mettā), offering a grounded, spiritual way to stay present with the pain.

Book Two: Three Years Later

The World Moved On — But You Didn’t

By year three, the casseroles are gone and people ask about your knees instead of your grief. This book honors Brian through stories and photos while exposing how the world forgets. It dares to ask “How’s the grief?” — a bold reversal of silence. It’s a call to see long-term grievers not as broken, but as still living with love and loss.

Book Three: Five Years Later

Love Returns. So Does Grief.

When new love appears, so does a deeper grief — disguised as fear, hope, and longing. Written in a poetic, soul-baring voice, this book explores what it means to risk intimacy again. It wrestles with equanimity, indifference, and the spiritual tools needed to stay open when everything in you wants to protect yourself. It’s not about closure. It’s about continuation.

Companion Book: MDMA and Grief

(Not part of the main series — but deeply connected)

For those curious about psychedelic healing, this standalone account of using MDMA to process grief offers insight, intention, and a fresh path for emotional integration. A powerful supplement to the Come As You Are series.

You don’t have to start at the beginning.

Just start where you are.

The Come As You Are series will meet you there.

Whether you're newly grieving, years into loss, or falling in love again — there's a book here to walk with you.